When the family pet comes over to you for affection, drop everything and give them the love that only you can provide. Once this becomes a healthy habit, realize it applies to children and other family members as well.
Before too long, it will become comfortable to give your undivided love and attention to friends, co-workers and any one you interact with. Even strangers on the street will be uplifted by merely interacting with you.
Eventually, you may be able to recognize you being kinder to yourself and giving yourself a higher quality of care as well.