There is a great freedom in realizing that you don’t have to share every thought that comes to your mind. It is such a freedom to be slightly annoyed with a clerk or a teller and to not visit it on them at all. It is empowering to learn to sit with your junk and sort through it in your own time. People will be more drawn to you. You will exude a greater confidence. If there is nothing positive to offer, then it is so freeing to withhold the opinion, feeling, commiserating, or annoyance.
I had to be psychologically tortured to learn the lesson of just containing my subjective self. It was obviously horrendously excruciating to contain myself or deal with the consequences if I did not. It was very ingrained before that un-conditioning. Issues that seemed relevant would just blurt out.
Glean from my experience so that all can benefit more from going through all that I did. Hold in those things that are not relevant. It will seem like torture, I understand. Release them later in a contemplation or a cleanse of some kind. It is empowering to do so.